4 Helpful Ways To Help Stop Bullying

Stop Bullying

Bullying! Bullying!! Bullying!!!
Do you wanna know how to stop this?
If Yes, then this article is for YOU only.
Make sure you read from start to the end...

Bullying  is always a serious issue, every parent must be fully prepared for it because its a normal and natural occurrence,is part of our nature and get this...it's not our fault or the child's fault,if they get bullied, we should acknowledge this!



Bullying in my own view as just only 3 (three) types,we have;

•  The Physical Bullying
•  The Verbal Bullying and
•  The Cyber Bullying

Both can be done either by an individual(a kid) or a group(a gang of kids). I so much believe that kids who involve in bullying others are troubled ones,they kids who are facing a lot of troubles at home,which they can't handle,some have bottled up a lot of pains from what they've gone through and this have affected their emotions. So in order to express their feelings,share,mingle and to create awareness among their fellows is kinda difficult for them,instead of being positive they go negative with others. This is another parenting issue on is own.

Actions such as,picking on a fellow,demeaning,shoving,pushing etc are done in various places especially in schools and in the neighborhood where no adult sees it...this is what makes bullying a hard issue to tackle. Yet you must tackle it!  

Most parent, do use this Traditional Method to stop bullying,traditional methods such as;

•  Telling Your kids To Never Mind Or Ignore Bullying,
• Fighting Or Hit Back Bullying, and
• Challenging the kid that bullied or their parent.

 Truly this methods do work but it does live a mark in a little kid's life for God knows how long!
  Imagine, a kid who as been trained on how to ignore bullying and not to worry about it...and such kids will keep on going through this pains and hurt from his or her fellow. Or a child who as been trained on how fight back whenever he/she is been bullied. Or you do help your kids fight back and challenge the kid who bullied or their parent...what do you think both kids will become?
What kinda atmosphere do you think you are creating for your kid and yourself?
To me, both kids will arbor pains in themselves,including you...The ignoring bully kid might one day commit suicide when it's too much while The fight back kid, will definitely become a bully too (because of too much aggression in defense whenever been bullied). And for the involving parent,who do challenge the kid that bullied or their parent, this might create a strong lasting enmity between your kid and the other kid even between you parents too!
So,I don't use this methods...will you?

Here Are 4 Helpful Ways To Stop Bullying

• Respond To Your Child's Feelings: If your child is being bullied,let your child know that you do care about their feelings and value their life as well. This alone,will give your child hope and even courage for solution because they have someone they can rely on,someone who they can share what they feel in the inside with...teenagers wants to know that they've being heard and that their feelings matter but this depends on the kind of Parent-Child relationship you've built.This will then bring up the step of what you both will do to stop the bullying.
• Report To The Authorities: Here after responding to your child's feelings, you have to do something...so,go ahead and prove it to them that you care and value them...Take note of caution, don't do this with anger or aggressiveness because it will send a wrong message to your child and it will not help stop the bullying but make it worse!Approaching the Authorities (I mean School authorities or the other parent directly) should be done in a very mature way. The way you approach really matters,when you approach some people while you're angry, you might inflict them with it and this will bring more problem. Try as best as you can to ease you anger and pain on what had happen to your child. Though, is gonna be easy...just keep your sanity!(Responding to your child's feelings and reporting to the authorities are actions you must take) 
• Teach Your kid To Stand Up For Themselves: The reason why most kid get bullied is For Being Different. So,teach them these;

1.  To look naturally confident and self-assured,
2. Have good self-esteem,
3.  How to care about their appearance ( to be well presented) and
4.  How to use eye contact.

 I assure this will help them a lot!

•  Empower them-(Positive Peer Group): To me, this is very helpful when you're not around or far away. It's also a very helpful tool to stop bullying for care givers such as, Teachers,Proprietors etc.At times,when you report to schools authorities about bullying you find out it doesn't stop,don't blame them bullying reports is just too much. In fact,most schools don't permit kids to fight back or defend themselves when bullied.

So,teach or empower them to stop bullying themselves. How you ask?

It's simple,just tell them to work/walk in group...its like having or creating a PRIDE OF TEENAGERS not PRIDE OF LIONS.
Encourage,motivate and challenge them on this group thing...it's gonna be difficult for bullying to occur!
(Teaching your kid/s how to stand up for themselves and empowering them are ways to boost your child self esteem)

Do you have any other ways to help stop bullying?
If you do...please share/post here.

Step Parenting Guide: When Your Kids Don't Get Along With Their New Stepparent

       Do you know the reason why your child just can't seem to get along with a new stepparent?
       Read this article from a step parenting guru...

By Gerardo Campbell 

When you have a child who just can't seem to get along with a new stepparent, the first thing you should do is to take a step back and look objectively at the entire situation. There are a few questions you should ask yourself in order to address this issue.
The first question is, "Why?" Is it just normal adjustment problems, or is there a deeper issue? A majority of blended families have a difficult time adjusting to a stepparent and their children joining the family. Most of the time you can just try to be respectful of each other and give it time and eventually everything will fall into place. Sometimes it's not that simple. This is when you start to dig a little deeper into the cause of the problem. There are many things that can factor into this, and also several things you can do to help the situation.
First of all, talk to your kids. Ask them what their side of the story is and then listen. You may not get the exact truth but you should be able to get an idea of it. One thing you need to emphasize to them is that you are not trying to replace their other biological parent, and they do not have to dislike their new stepparent to prove their loyalty to the biological parent. Explain to your children how a stepparent is just one more person who is there for them rather than someone competing with them. Assure them you have enough love to give both them and your new spouse at the same time.
Kids are likely to blame the stepparent for the conflict, but don't immediately assume they're wrong. Remember this is just as new to your partner as it is to your kids, so they may not know exactly how to make it work either. A big mistake many new stepparents make is trying to be a buddy to the kids. Although it is helpful when the children like them, it is much more important that they respect them. Your partner is an adult and your kids need to view your partner as an authority figure rather than a friend.
Additionally, you need to make sure your partner sets good boundaries with the stepchildren and sticks to them. Otherwise, the kids are going to walk all over them.
On the other hand, your new partner has to realize they are not their replacement parent and can't walk into their lives commanding respect and giving orders. It is your (the biological parent's) job to discipline your children, not the new stepparent.
Here are a few things to avoid doing that will also help. One major thing is to not involve your kids in your marital problems. No matter how angry or hurt you are, never ever say anything bad about your partner to your child. This applies to both the parent and the new stepparent. Also, the new stepparent should never ask the kids to keep a secret from the other parent. This is just asking for trouble. The new parents also should avoid arguing with the kids. It is okay to disagree, but after you present your side of the issue, drop it. Kids often like to argue because they of course think they're always right. If you can just let them know you disagree and walk away, you could be saving yourself a lot of stress.
If none of these suggestions seem to help, then maybe you have to start asking yourself some very tough questions. Is there any possibility the new stepparent may be sexually abusing your child? You're saying: "Not a chance. I wouldn't be with someone like that." But a lot of times people "like that" hide that part of themselves extremely well. This may not be something your kids will just tell you about. Look for signs. One classic sign is bed-wetting. Other signs include things like falling grades, becoming withdrawn, rapid weight loss or gain, and severe mood swings or violence. If you notice any of these things, immediately get some professional help to find out exactly what is going on. Do not sit back and tell yourself this isn't really what's wrong with your child.
Regardless of whether your child is being abused, you may need some extra help with your family. A good reputable counselor who specializes in blended families could be the answer. Even if it is only adjustment problems you may not be able to fix them on your own. Asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of. However, sitting back and hoping your problems will go away on their own is.
An additional consideration is to address these issues before you and your partner say, "I do." Having conversations with your children regarding their future stepparent can go a long ways in easing the transition after the wedding. The more issues and concerns are addressed, the greater of amount of ease. Despite this advanced work you should still expect problems.
Boundaries, respect, and honesty are what it all boils down to. If you can create a mutual respect between your kids and your spouse, then eventually they will get along. They may never really like each other, but they don't have to. As long as they treat each other with respect you will have a happy home. Or at least a home where there isn't constant fighting.

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3 Steps To Establish Your Parental Authority

       " In order to make the best parenting or discipline techniques for you ,several factors need to be considered". You want to regain your parental authority...
the parental authority to keep control over your child or family.Click here now!
Warning : Don't buy or use any book,pamphlet or article on the subject discipline or parenting until you've answered the following four questions...
       Do you find it difficult to keep control over your child?
       Do your children obey reasonable parental authority?
       Do you feel like your child is running the family?
       Do you feel unsure of yourself or have the fear of making mistakes in parenting?
   If your answer is "YES" then this article, is for you (Parent who are desperately trying to keep control over their children,but not succeeding.Parent who have the fear of making mistake in parenting).
YOUR PARENTAL PERMISSIVENESS : Now we come to the cause of the loss of Parental Authority. Numerous articles,Journals,Magazines and books lament the decline of firm parental discipline which succor permissiveness.Permissiveness is blamed for drug abuse,violence,vandalism,immorality,acne,the raising of crime rate in the society.By permissiveness i mean that " the parent is afraid to set limit for the child"
                                                                                  " the parent is afraid to say no"
  For the parent who do is, will eventually lost his or her parental power and they will find it difficult to run the family, instead the child does.Even parent who constantly appease a child,giving in to the child's whims and demand, and letting the child push her around for basic psychological reasons, for example;
                    " the fear of making mistake in parenting"
                    " the fear of not loosing the child's love".
                    "worrying about child's behavior"
By doing this the parent has abdicate his or her authority over to the child and i call all this psychological reasons (fear) psychological hang-up.
   For parent to overcome this and to regain their parental power,negative mind,getting professional help and getting more information is required.
NEGATIVE MIND,FEELING AND THINKING : To gain back parental authority, the parent have to be negative about their feelings (fear of making mistake or loosing the child's love). I mean parents should deliberately exaggerate all these fears and worries alone at least for five minute daily this will help to achieve a positive feeling.
GET PROFESSIONAL HELP : Enrolling in a class in assertiveness training in a psychological institute or going  through individual or group therapy with a competent professional person : a psychologist or psychiatrist.
GET MORE INFORMATION : For parent to be firm in discipline, to regain parental authority, instead of fear and worries, they need more information about discipline techniques. They need more than well - meaning advice to " be firm".
This tool will also help you establish your parental authority