Although,parents do try to use good discipline strategies,but the problem is,most parent try to deal with child misbehavior by the use of punishment only. They don't know how to handle child misbehavior, some take discipline for punishment.
So far, we have talked about discipline, which is teaching and in my previous articles we've talked about good teaching strategies.Get them in here!
To proceed,parents need to make a clear-cut distinction between discipline and punishment. In this article,we base only on punishment- i mean it's effect on a child.
Firstly, what is punishment?
Secondly, when and how do we use punishment in discipline?
Lastly, what effect or power does it have in child discipline?
What Is Discipline?:It is a very poor and ineffective tool that doesn't teach or motivate a child towards more desirable behavior, it only curb undesirable behavior.
The Types Of Punishment : Listing out the types, i want parents to analyze, visualize and remember this punishments- i mean how do they feel when it was done to you then?
Sending the child to his room,
Taking away the child's privileges and,
Ask questions like, Does it motivate me to change my negative behavior back then in my childhood?
The Effect Of Punishment : Firstly, Punishment is only an attempt to curb undesirable behavior, it only tells a child what not to do,, it doesn't motivate the child.
Secondly, Parent intends the punishment to make things unpleasant for the child, so that he will change his behavior for better. Unfortunately, it strengthened the very undesirable behavior the parent wants to get rid of!
Thirdly, Punishment loses it's effectiveness as the child grows older. You find them say somethings like : " Have done wrong again, i will be punished for this. Well, it doesn't kill any way, am ready for it!"
Fourthly, The person who punishes is teaching the child or others to avoid him. How can you impact or influence the child's life positively?
Lastly, What punishment does produce between parent-child relationship,is resentment,hostility, the desire for revenge or retaliation. It arouses negative feelings between parents and the child and we cannot teach our children a desirable behavior with punishment only. Get more tips here!