In my previous articles, I pointed out that discipline is "TEACHING"-a continuous teaching and in order to lay solid foundation of discipline, you must set up an emotional teaching strategy to teach your child a desirable behavior, which is "RAPPORT"-a mutual liking and respect, good vibes between parent and children or a child. Now we come to discipline it's self.
What are the discipline strategies for teaching your child a desirable behavior? Get them here now!
In my opinion, here is the discipline strategy for teaching your child a desirable behavior. It’s the best and powerful teaching strategy but is unfortunate that is the one parent use least.
The Positive Child Guide Reward: A positive child guide reward is a set up little or small reward (gift) given to a child at the outcome of every desirable behavior. Mind you, this positive rewards shouldn't be given in one huge amount when ever a child behaves well or at the outcome of every desirable behavior.It should be in small amount until the desirable behavior becomes part of the child.Got the tips? Although parents do use this positive rewards strategy, but they do misuse it, they do the exact opposite. Millions of parents do make the mistake of given out the rewards for undesirable.
For example, when a child is behaving well, doing things the parent would like, doing good things to please the parent-what happens next?
Is the child rewarded with a positive reward?
Is the child given a word of appreciation or praise?
Is the child given a hug? Or they do the exact by ignoring the child, saying nothing and taking those desirable behaviors for granted.
Now, what does the parent mean? I mean, what do they mean exactly by showing this negative attitude towards the child's good behavior?
That is they don't want the child's desirable behaviors and they are teaching the child to stop those good characters. Although, parents do take this negative attitudes as a punishment, but to the child that's a reward. Instead behaving well, the child act's up and goes negative too.
Now the question you might have and the answers:
How am I going to avoid these mistakes that other parents are making?
Some parents would think and say now: "But my child is older-what will I do now?”
Don't worry. Get it here, in the next article: Positive Child Guide Rewards 2